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Womaves — is the online magazine for modern women and their friends.

We are freedom-loving and inquisitive, we believe that serious things can be exciting and sweet nonsense worthy of attention, because a big picture is made up of small details.

We are convinced that there are no special women’s topics, and we invite everyone who has an interest in life to our club.

We treat fashion, beauty, art, politics, sex, health, rights and entertainment with equal respect and attention.

We do not avoid talking about the complex, we are not afraid of abstractions, we try to deal with prejudices, stereotypes and dangerous misconceptions.

We believe that you can be different and make informed choices while respecting the choices of others.

We value independence and thorough expertise. We do not prohibit, but advise. We follow trends, but do not become their hostages. We do not make enemies, but make friends.

We live in a big world that sometimes makes mistakes, but seeks to correct them. We are looking for a language to talk about that which was not there yesterday.

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Bad advices and dangerous misconceptions about skin care

Cosmetic life hacks are passed from mouth to mouth, but they are not always effective and useful.

Their origin may be very different, but many misconceptions are so tenacious that they haunt us since childhood: for example, not only grandmothers, but also different cosmetologists spoke about the use of decorative cosmetics.

We dispel ten popular myths about how to care for your skin (and explain how to do it).

Cauterize inflammation

Episodic inflammations really pass faster if you act on them pointwise by special means (we can recommend Clarins Stop Imperfections Locales Blemish Control and Clean & Clear Advantage Acne Spot Treatment gels, as well as Burt’s Bees Anti-Blemish Targeted Spot Treatment lotion).

Despite the fact that the concentration of active substances in them is high, it is still not pure alcohol, eau de toilette or toothpaste, which is often advised to be applied to acne in order to dry the skin.

First of all, with such improvised means, it is not always possible to solve the problem, and in addition, you can dry your skin and even get a burn if you leave the paste on your face for a long time.

Mix cosmetics yourself

The world is full of beautiful or not very cosmetic products that cost reasonable money.

Therefore, the desire to independently mix the cleanser with baking soda, dandruff shampoo with aspirin or face scrub with sugar seems to us at least unjustified.

It is based primarily on the common misconception that such ingredients, added manually, are “natural”, and everything in the bank is “chemistry”.

Even when it comes to vegetables and fruits, everything is not so simple: the freshest strawberries from the garden can cause an allergic reaction, and its ability to nourish the skin with vitamins better than the finished product is greatly exaggerated.

Sugar grains, in turn, can injure even the most delicate skin of the body, aspirin, although it has an anti-inflammatory effect, is very difficult to add in the necessary and safe proportion, and soda with its pH 8 seriously violates the skin’s pH (it ranges between 4.5 and 6.5) and dries it.

Treat Acne With Tan

Firstly, medications prescribed by a doctor to treat acne increase the skin’s sensitivity to ultraviolet radiation, so their users should not be in the sun or in a solarium.

But for those who do not take medications, one should be careful with the sun: despite the fact that the sunbaths can give a weak anti-inflammatory effect, they will not cure the disease, but the likelihood of pigmentation will increase, and aging will accelerate.

The only definitely positive effect of tanning is rather decorative: indeed, on darker skin unevenness is not so noticeable and intuitively it is perceived as healthier, but this is all a disguise, and not a solution to the problem.

Wash face once a day

Even if you don’t use makeup at all, a single evening wash with the product “to wash away the accumulated over the day” is not enough.

Regular two-time (and three-time – if you exercise before a sweat) cleansing the skin with a soft cream or foam helps the skin absorb moisturizers and serums well and recover from diseases like rosacea, and also reduces the likelihood of inflammation and makes the pores cleaner.

Use baby oil to attract tanning

Baby oils like the well-known Johnson’s Baby moisturize the skin, but do not contain sunscreens – and therefore contribute to sunburn.

Many people love these oils because it is an effective and inexpensive (compared to good bronzers) way to get a thick tan in a short time, but they prefer not to think about the consequences of the skin burning faster with them.

Exfoliate skin vigorously

Exfoliation is necessary, but it should never injure.

For different types and conditions of skin, there are means: scrubs with abrasive particles, enzyme peels, gadgets like Clarisonic, Foreo, Clinique brushes or even makeup wipes.

Owners of oily or combination skin are often resorted to zealous cleansing, but the lack of hydration and too hard exfoliation not only do not establish seoregulation, but also strengthen it.

In addition, aggressive physical procedures (advice on rubbing your face with ice cubes also applies here) can provoke rosacea.

Choose aggressive product

Previous paragraph is called upon to dispel the belief that any “working” cosmetics should burn, bake, or otherwise cause discomfort.

Immediately it is worth making a reservation that some means with acids, mud or oxygen masks slightly tingle the skin, which is due to the very mechanism of their action and is always prescribed in the instructions.

But burning, tightening or redness after a moisturizing tonic or base cream contradict their tasks and signal only that this remedy is not suitable.

Use too much cosmetic products

We all know very well how difficult it is to refrain from buying and instantly trying another advertised or simply beautiful can, but it is better to be patient.

Usually, for the quality skin care, three or four products are used at a time: for cleansing, sunscreen, cream and serum, working with specific problems (anti-aging or for problem skin, for example).

Masks, scrubs, oils and other means are also needed, but you should not do all the procedures in one go, otherwise you can provoke irritation.

In addition, it is necessary to monitor how the funds are combined with each other, and with a large number of cans it is even more difficult to control.

Go for sports without washing off your makeup

We understand what may be caused by reluctance to go out without a comfortable foundation or tinted eyebrows and eyelashes.

Nevertheless, it is not worth doing sports, wrapped in cosmetics: heated skin can even perceive harmless mineral powder as an obstacle and respond to inflammation (although pores should not clog).

If you still can’t get to classes without makeup, carry napkins with you to remove it, and it’s better to use foam and cream, because you also need to wash off sweat after class.

Extend the life of cosmetics

The most common advice on saving on mascara is to dilute it with dried water or eye drops.

Doing this is not worth it for one reason: almost all mascara dries at about the time when it is no longer possible to use (the maximum lifespan is three months or, better, two).

The resurrection of broken powders, shadows and blush of conjunctivitis does not threaten, but you should be prepared for the fact that after you add petroleum jelly or alcohol to the crushed pigment, the product will fall on the skin in a different way and again can cause an unpredictable reaction.


Dazing gazing

How do I look at those I like?

Honestly? With suspicion. Or I don’t look at all if the sympathy is really serious and is not limited to the aesthetic admiring of the subject of sighing.

And all because the longer you look, the deeper you fall into that abyss that has no bottom. Into the abyss, from which you can only get out in two ways: in the first case, the object of sympathy reciprocates, in the second, attachment weakens until it is completely released.

And if you imagine that you succumb to the urge to watch, watch, watch, without stopping, voluntarily dooming yourself to a miracle or failure, then.

At such moments, the gaze is filled with a mixture of unadulterated hope, longing, a desire to share those worlds that are inside and the boundless warmth spreading inside a golden field.

You can add a little passion with hints of thirst and need. And then there is a danger that the look will provoke a fire that will burn everything to the ground.

Or a pinch of insolence, flexible and sharp, like a whip – to challenge.

You can add innocence and attract to the alluring light of the real hunters and animals who simply can not get past the next prey.

And you can … A lot of things you can still.

But if deep inside you feel confidence, fueled by sincere desire and patience, willingness to answer for your choice and take responsibility, then the look itself will tell everything for you.

To the one who was awarded such an interweaving of emotions.
Be it a stranger or a person who knows you all his life.
With the eyes one can say much more than with words.

The main thing is to know how to do this.

Bad Streak: How to take care of yourself in difficult times

We all know what the “dark period” is – serious and prolonged troubles that occurred after unpleasant changes in life.

A loved one went to the hospital, you are experiencing a painful separation, lost your job or cannot find a new one, are faced with financial difficulties and so on.

Such a situation is continuous continuous stress. More often than not, we hear that we need to “get together and fight,” but this strategy works only for a short period of time – and forces run out for a long period of time and exhaustion sets in.

I tell you how to survive difficult times, taking care of yourself.

Accept that there will be less energy

And do not scold yourself for this. Any serious troubles cause prolonged stress, and this is a very energy-consuming condition for the body. Do not try to demand as much from yourself as you did in normal mode – it is better to reduce the number of cases, leaving only the most necessary.

Of course, the most difficult thing about this is not to perceive the breakdown as failure.

Society imposes on us that only effective, rational and super successful people can be “good”. And even if trouble happened, a person should “pull himself together” and “fight”, and not “slacken”.

But in reality it is impossible to accomplish this: if you broke up with a partner, fell ill, quit or faced another serious nuisance, you will still be sad and you will feel less energetic than before. It’s better to take this into account when planning your business.

Plan your vacation and leisure

Yes, they are required. Of course, leisure does not necessarily imply a noisy and fun pastime – it’s just about any kind of recreation and entertainment that you usually like, and those that you can now afford because of your moral, physical and financial condition.

Even if it’s just a chocolate bar and a cup of tea in a bed with a blanket. Or going to the movies. Or cooking and eating your favorite food for the series.

The secret is to plan them – write them down in a daily planner and lay them on a schedule. In stress, many of us are inclined to turn on the survival mode: load ourselves with deeds to the limit, try to immediately solve all problems.

But the idea of ​​exhausting oneself with work in order to forget oneself is not as good as it seems. Unpleasant thoughts will still find a loophole, and they do it especially well at night, in silence, when there is no longer any resource for business – therefore, many who adhere to such tactics suffer from sleep disturbances.

You are not a robot and must regain strength. In addition, a relaxing holiday helps to better understand yourself and your feelings, and this is important for mental health. Especially in difficult times.

Do not be cruel to yourself

This means not pushing yourself to the limit with deeds, eating on time, not overdoing it with alcohol, cigarettes or junk food (because health problems haven’t made anyone else crisis easier), not locking yourself at home in isolation, but also not force yourself to go to all events in a row, just to “cheer up”.

Monitor health and strength, which in this state, as we have said, end much faster than usual.

Perhaps for some time you will not be the most reliable friend and business partner – but save yourself.

Not to be cruel to yourself yet – and this is very important – means not to listen to the inner critic when he says: “Let’s look at things soberly. Nobody wants to live with you because you … (you have a non-living character, you are not able to interest anyone, etc.)”

Or “The employer refused you because you are not capable of anything.” Or “If you are trying for the third time and nothing comes out, you must admit that this is not for you.”

What to oppose to this voice? Compassion for oneself and recognition of those feelings that lie behind him: anger, anger, disappointment, despair.

Undoubtedly, troubles cause a whole palette of negative emotions, and they can last quite a while.

Yes, lessons can and should be learned from any failure or crisis. But self-flagellation does not help.

Find someone to share experiences with

In difficult times, many people feel like “hiding in a hole”: sitting at home, trying to solve problems alone, minimally communicate with others and not tell anyone about their troubles. This is a natural reaction.

Firstly, there is a component of denial in it: until I tell anyone about unpleasant events, it would seem that they did not happen. Secondly, undoubtedly, not all people in a crisis situation are useful (the next point is about this). Thirdly, communication requires strength, and in a crisis they are very limited.

Still, sharing the difficulties with those who support us is very important.

This reduces stress, makes us feel that we are not alone and, in the end, helps to cope with a difficult period.

Try to talk about your difficulties with at least a few close people who are usually not inclined to criticize others and make harsh judgments. Perhaps you should warn them that you are experiencing difficulties, it is difficult for you to talk about them and you are waiting for support.

If there are no good friends left in your environment, your relatives are not ready to support you (and this happens), think about a little more distant acquaintances. It is important to get human support and to be listened to.

In an extreme case, the Internet can come to the rescue: closed groups, acquaintances who had similar troubles or thematic forums.

Just before you talk about your difficulties in a community, make sure that there are rules for environmentally friendly communication: the participants support each other, there is no victimization, no one is bullied or ridiculed, and no ratings are given.

Otherwise, you risk getting new wounds on top of the old ones.

Avoid people giving categorical recommendations

This paragraph primarily refers to those whose difficult situations can (or seem to be) influenced. Those who part with a partner or whose relationship is in crisis, those who emigrated or chose to stay, those who have difficulties at work and are dissatisfied with it, and so on.

At such a moment, many of us begin to be given advice: “Stay at your old job, you always have time to leave”, “Go to interviews outside working hours”, “Leave the country”, “Stay”, “Try to establish relationships”, “Do not let her more chances, nothing good will end ”.

However, even those whose difficult situation cannot be influenced in any way (for example, a loved one died) also manage to give recommendations: “Distract yourself from something”, “Cry less”, “Hand things out as soon as possible”.

Categorical recommendations and persistent advice during the period of hesitation is a clear evil.

Although, it would seem, why not listen to them, especially if they are given by an authoritative person for you who has taken place in this area — successful in work, happy in relationships, and so on?

But, firstly, someone else’s experience and someone else’s choice may not suit you. You don’t know, and you’ll probably never know at what price a colleague managed to save the marriage, what a friend who moved to another continent lost, and how successful a friend’s decision was to go to programmers by throwing translations from a foreign language.

Sometimes a person defends a decision that he made, not at all because it was so successful, but to prove to himself and others that it was his choice that was right. And even if he really considers this choice to be good, it is not a fact that your values ​​coincide.

But most importantly – the more you doubt, the more you need people who do not give any advice at all.

Because now you need not someone’s leadership, but unconditional acceptance as a person.

Regardless of the decision that you make, you need people around you who will consider you good or good, expensive and valuable, no matter what happens to you and around. And the necessary solution in such conditions will sooner or later ripen by itself.

Try not to make “sudden movements”

Having experienced severe stress, we sometimes experience an irresistible desire to do something to rectify the situation. This is a natural reaction of the psyche.

Usually we try to do this in two ways: either return the situation at least some certainty – or, on the contrary, escape from it into some kind of brave new world (“I’ll leave and start a new life in a new place”).

Usually the consequences of rash decisions and the stress from them in the end are harder than what you experienced at first.

Therefore, if you left work and are looking for a new one, do not settle for the very first offer without going to a few more interviews. Avoid in a panic to decide to immediately return to the old one if there are no responses to your resume in the first week.

If you part with a partner, resist the desire to return everything after the first bout of acute anguish and do not rush to immediately start a new relationship.

Having experienced a bereavement, learning about a disease (your own or a loved one), think at least a month or two before you radically change your life: move, change your occupation and the like. Such an attempt to escape from a difficult situation and difficult feelings will be unproductive.

What to do instead? It is very useful to fix feelings on paper or give them a place in some other way: put sad songs that you associate with your situation, draw, dance.

It is not necessary to plunge into melancholy, fear or grief “to the fullest”, it is enough to give your heavy feelings a place and a short time – at least half an hour, even fifteen minutes.

It really heals a little and makes the situation bearable, unlike attempts to escape from it.


Information Hygiene: How To Deal With Bad News

In the DIGITAL ERA we got not only unlimited access to knowledge and means of communication, but also an almost uncontrolled flow of news – including emotionally difficult and terrible events.

How to support yourself when a huge stream of information about death, violence or social injustice falls upon you?

Allow yourself to express emotions

The terrible news is quite capable of causing a stressful reaction, even if we try to convince ourselves that these are just letters and pictures on the screen.

Crying, being agitated or depressed is normal, even if it is tears about strangers who died in a plane crash, or about a victim of domestic violence.

Empathy is a natural human quality. If you feel that emotions are overwhelming you, allow yourself to express them. It is also a good defense against overwhelming yourself with hard news.

When we realize how much the information we receive affects us, we begin to be more careful about digital hygiene.

Track strong bodily and emotional reactions

It is important to notice when reading or watching the news begins to harm you, causing too much stress.

Tense shoulders or legs, jaw clenched or other bodily manifestations of severe anxiety, sleep or appetite changes, depressed or, on the contrary, inflated mood are true signs of such stress.

If any of the above began to appear regularly after viewing the news feed, perhaps you should limit the flow of incoming information or even temporarily stop reading news and the feed on social networks.

Try to avoid hard news when you are especially vulnerable: early in the morning, right before bedtime, or when you are hungry, haven’t enough sleep, or are already worried or upset about something.

Make Sure You Have No Depression or Other Disorder

Sometimes, the fact that a person began to notice only the negative aspects of life, can serve as a sign of depression or other mental disorders.

Thoughts that only evil, violence and cruelty are happening in the world, that humanity or an individual part of it does not have a good future, that life is very difficult, can be an alarming signal.

It is worth considering whether you have other symptoms of depression: changes in appetite or sleep, negative perceptions of your life and prospects, apathetic or irritated mood, decreased physical activity, loss of interest in what you liked before.

If there are two or more symptoms and they last longer than two to three weeks in a row, you should consult a specialist.

Interrupt Auto Response

Our psyche perceives negative information as a threat, and as a self-defense there is a desire to control what is happening.

But how can you curb what has already happened to other people and at a great distance from you?

The brain decides to continue reading or watching the news, because it gives the illusion of control. In fact, this only enhances the stress response, which does not get a way out.

If you notice that the reaction has looped – you cannot stop reading, talking about difficult events, discussing them with friends and social networks – it may be worth the effort of will to stop and try to switch.

The simplest actions will help: close the laptop, go for a walk, cook your own lunch or pour tea.

Track cognitive bias

Negative information causes anxiety, forcing to concentrate on it.

And then the effect of cognitive distortion, known as the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, may work, it is an illusion of frequency: if we learned some information recently, then hearing it a second or third time, we will perceive it as unusually often repeated.

For example, you first thought about environmental issues or read about how domestic violence occurs. It’s very likely (because the news about both is quite frequent) that after this article and posts on the topic of global warming, fires or abuse in the family, you will catch your eye literally everywhere – in fact, because earlier you just flipped through them, and now they began to pay attention.

This can create a depressing impression, so it is important to separate your awakened consciousness (which is actually very good) from the gloomy thoughts that humanity is doomed.

Do not be ashamed of the need to switch

Disconnecting from the flow of heavy news is not indifference and not social irresponsibility, but self-preservation.

Here it is worth recalling the oxygen mask, which is first worn on yourself, or thinking that if you are exhausted, you certainly can not help anyone, but only increase the number of distressed people by one more.

Do not let others impose a feeling of guilt on you that your emotional container is not unlimited: only you can decide how many difficult stories you can endure now.

And yes – if you are sick, depressed or experiencing a difficult period of life, it is likely that this volume is zero. This is also normal, and you have the right to recover and follow the information diet as much as you need.

Highlight Triggers

Social injustice, violence, the death of living beings can emotionally affect any person. But often, what is connected with our personal negative experience: physical or sexual violence, traumatic childhood experience, bullying, death of loved ones, is especially hard on us.

Knowing “your” topics, you should be especially careful when reading or even watching a video with just such information.

If after hard news you can’t calm down in any way, it’s likely that, besides the usual human sympathy, your reaction is caused by the recollections of your own injuries.

Ask yourself, do the sensations you experienced while reading or watching this news resemble something that has already happened in your life? Do they remind you of something? What catches the most, hurts?

Sometimes such episodes become the path to awareness of one’s own traumatic experience, which was previously supplanted.

But be careful: if you unblock such memories, you will need a lot of self-care and, possibly, psychological help.

At the very least, in such a situation, the support of understanding relatives is needed, with whom difficult experiences can be shared.


Fundraising for Hanna

Hanna was born on time, but since birth we have been fighting for her life. So happened that she can’t live a full life because of multiple malformations. Perinatal CNS damage, neurosensory hearing loss, heart disease and spastic tetraparesis.

She can’t swallow on her own and get food through a probe that stands in her nose. We have to change the probe often, and it brings Hanna a lot of pain. We don’t hope to cover all medical expenses with someone else’s help, but at least part of them would help us significantly.

Let’s bring some magic to this world and save Hanna’s life together.
Anyway thank you for your support!


11 New Year things to inspire yourself and others

There is very little left until the end of December — if in 2019 you were going to play sports, start saving money and learn a new language, you can already indulge in self-flagellation and put off all these bold plans for 2020.

Before the New Year, many people feel anguish: this is due to high demands on themselves, and the pressure of society (on Instagram, everyone is already taking pictures of themselves at the Christmas tree, and you don’t even know where to celebrate), and the inevitable expenses, and the feeling of obligation, and uncertainty about the future.

Nevertheless, it is possible and even necessary to raise your festive spirit and enter the new year as a more pleasant person for yourself.

Here are a few quick and low-cost ways to feel better in the holiday madness.

Give someone something unnecessary

The best way to end the year symbolically is to arrange cleaning and get rid of everything that no longer brings joy. In the process, there are many things that you no longer need, and it is a pity to throw away.

Don’t throw it away: take your old clothes for recycling or donate them to charity, put off the smartest clothes until the next swap party or offer your friends right away.

The most amazing items that you consider junk, will have success at various sites. Collect the old batteries for recycling, take the read books to bookcrossing.

Done — the place has become empty, breathing has become easier, you acted as a conscious and environmentally responsible person. In the new year he will live easier with such a person.

Present a gift with meaning

Stop the cycle of soap, souvenir figurines and candles with vigorous fragrance and give something really cool, even if it’s small. Even for «secret Santa» at work, you can choose something nice and meaningful.

If you are not burdened with the need to give gifts to friends, think of strangers.

Is there no suitable charity gathering nearby?

Improvise: the saleswoman from the grocery, where you go every day, will certainly be very happy if you buy her a chocolate bar and congratulate her with holidays.

Have a bath in love

The best way to quickly cheer yourself up is to call your beloved grandmother, who is crazy about you, and talk to her for at least half an hour. A relative of any age or an old friend who loves you unconditionally and considers you the most wonderful fish in the world will do, no matter how you try to prove the opposite.

Now everyone is busy preparing for the holidays and burning at work, but there’s definitely enough time to talk on the phone. An alternative is to visit friends who have a friendly dog ​​and cuddle it properly.

If you are prone to self-flagellation and feel especially lousy before the holidays, ask your friends to write what qualities they like — if you don’t want to «ask for compliments, ” you can always say that this is a task from a psychotherapist, boss or boxing trainer.

Write to someone you haven’t contacted for a long time

You wonder how are doing with your school friend who moved to another city and seems to be married? If interested, write to her and ask how you are doing.

Think about which of the people you’ve liked that you haven’t talked with for a long time and contact someone. The addressee is flattering, it does not oblige you to anything, weak social ties are strengthened, you are magnificent.

Fix something your hands never reached

Few things bring such satisfaction as a finished job. It is unlikely that it will be possible to deal with the launched working projects until the New Year, but you will definitely have time to do something small with the housework: the result will be noticeable immediately, and you will feel fine.

Finally, change the light bulb in the toilet, wash the bath mat, buy new slippers, put on trousers or glue the baseboard that you cling to for months — cheers, your house has become more comfortable, and if not a mountain, then a small pebble has fallen off your shoulders.

If after one small business there is a mood to continue — do not stop, but try not to get too killed.

Make a list of your achievements

Even if someone else’s «results of the year» is enraging you on Facebook, it can be useful to summarize yourselves — it is not necessary to publish the result, do the results for yourself.

Try to make a list of twenty things that you have been successful this year — it can be «earned the first million», and «did not forget about Mom’s birthday.»

Twenty points gained easily? Add twenty more. An alternative for those who are sick of «excellence» is the classic practice of gratitude: remember all the pleasant moments for which you are grateful for the outgoing year, and make a list of one hundred points.

There are so many points for good reason: to fill everything, you have to remember both big events and small joys, like that unexpectedly delicious cake or October evening, when you walked and happily rustled with leaves.

Plan something cool for the holidays

After a hectic December and the New Year, it’s easy to be on the couch without plans for the coming week — in order not to run wild at home, set a day for a solo or collective appearance.

See what exhibitions will be open, arrange with friends to go to the rink, invite everyone to visit you in advance and make a menu, plan a short trip out of town or buy tickets to the theater.

Living in anticipation of some interesting event is always easier — the main thing is not to clog up the weekend with chores and leave yourself time to just lie down, this is also important.

Sign up to the doctor

Everyone has debts to their health: an analysis that you can’t pass for six months, a new mole that would be nice to show to a dermatologist, a long-pasted visit to a dentist or gynecologist.

Sign up with the right specialist right now — at least for January. At the same time, throw away the old recipes and audit the first-aid kit to be fully equipped for the holidays.

Sorry if you offended anyone

Why start a year with remorse when you can be courageous and apologize? No reason. If you suspect that a person is offended by you, but do not understand why, then ask.

«It seems to me that you have become cooler about me, maybe I did something wrong?» — you shouldn’t, of course, be manipulated by toxic friends, but sincerely asking yourself once is not at all scary.

If your conscience is absolutely clear, remember those who helped and delighted you this year — and thank them for their support.

Return small debts

No one has extra money at the end of the year, but you are most likely able to repay small debts to friends and colleagues — remember who you owe a couple of hundred for a taxi or coffee, and give it right away, not paying attention to the statute of limitations.

If a person has forgotten that you owe him something, it will be a pleasant surprise for him, and you can put yourself the mental five for honesty.

Remove all unnecessary from the phone and from the computer

Even if you don’t have the strength to clean the house, you can clean up the digital halls. Sort out unread messages and letters, delete unnecessary items from your contact list, take down applications that you haven’t used for a long time, and spend a pleasant evening sorting old photos.

At the same time, remember the good points, and also make a backup of everything important. At the end of December, mailings about discounts and sales begin to come to the mail with tripled strength — a great time to unsubscribe from spam and start the year with clean mail and a fresh head.


Ordinary body: Why fight with cellulite is pointless

BEFORE THE MODERN SOCIETY IS A LOT OF SERIOUS ISSUES, such as the struggle to increase life expectancy, the establishment of world democracy or the colonization of Titan. Surprisingly, this very society is still experiencing irrational horror at the dimples in the hips.

Cellulite is considered a disease, perceived as ugliness, used as an insult, serves as a cause for concern and despondency of millions of women. It is time to understand the nature of this phenomenon and understand how another natural part of physiology has turned into an occasion for collective neurosis.

Who invented cellulite

Young girls are afraid of him, women shamefully delete photos he has damaged, and retouchers all over the world sit in photoshop day and night, aligning the uneven skin on the hips of world-famous models. The Internet is overwhelmed with advice, and the market with cellulite destruction services.

There are endless amounts of anti-cellulite products. Creams and serums, scrubs and wraps, brushes and massagers, herbs and algae, electrostimulation devices, injections and surgeries — all this only exists to help us cope with what is groundlessly considered a sign of laziness, ill health and unattractiveness.

Surprisingly, but cellulite as a global problem has not been fifty years old. Thanks to artists such as Rembrandt, Rubens and Courbet, overflows of light on uneven female buttocks, hips and stomachs adorn the best museums in the world.

Hollywood divas also did not think that cellulite should be treated. Even the promotional photos of the legendary actresses Marilyn Monroe and Jane Mansfield or the erotic model Betty Page never occurred to anyone to retouch.

In the 1920s, the French came up with the name for the type of female skin on the hips, buttocks and shoulders — «orange peel». But even then no one spoke about the fact that bumps on the female body are bad, that this is not the norm, but an unpleasant exception.

However, for half a century, the idea of ​​cellulite crossed the Atlantic: in 1973, the enterprising owner of the New York beauty salon Nicole Ronsard published the book «Cellulite: these lumps, bumps and bumps that you could not get rid of before.» The work was immediately reviewed by Vogue magazine, acquired by two hundred thousand women, and then it was repeatedly reprinted as a bestseller.

The book stated that cellulite is the «wrong» fat, and the tuberous buttock is a sign of impaired blood and lymph flow and the cause of the accumulation of toxic substances that the body cannot cope with. At that time, Ronsar had to work hard to find a cellulite-free model for advertising the book: only the thirtieth girl who came to the casting did not have it.

But in the end, the author hit the jackpot, starting to sell «anti-cellulite» cosmetic services: from ointments to massages. Immediately took off sales of cactus washcloths, hard loofah, magic creams, vitamin supplements.

After a while, in order to reach an even wider circle of consumers, four stages of the development of cellulite were invented.

The last of them was similar in description to fibrosis, and the first was called ingeniously — «hidden cellulite» — and as if hinted at the fact that if you do not have cellulite, you should still be afraid, because it just hides. To detect it, it is recommended to squeeze suspicious zones, find fat cells under the skin — and immediately run to the procedure.

In subsequent years, the cosmetic market adopted the idea of ​​cellulite, having justifiably seen a gold mine in the female fat layer. Courses of «treatment» poured out hundreds of dollars for clients.

The American Medical Association in 1978 announced that such a diagnosis as cellulite does not exist, and, of course, it has never been in the International Classification of Diseases. However, frightened consumers began to believe that the cream can penetrate the skin and dissolve fat cells, that polyethylene wraps will help to «evaporate» them, and that there are anti-cellulite exercises for «problem areas».

There was even an idea that cellulite is not fat, but a gel-like substance of water, fat and toxins that can be consumed by diet. Not so long ago, a horror story was born that cellulite is a sign of endocrine diseases, problems with the thyroid or pancreas.

Of course, from the point of view of physiology, all these are absurd assumptions. In just a couple of decades, the idea that they «suffer» from cellulite was also driven into our heads, but they also forced us to buy various placebo and give more and more money to cosmetic companies.

It is time to leave this realm of ignorance and understand two things: the first — that cellulite is far from always possible and necessary to get rid of, the second — that this is not a problem.

Is there a difference between cellulite and “regular” fat

Cellulite is not a medical term. From the point of view of medicine, this is just the body fat, that is, the norm: for doctors and biologists it simply does not exist. To understand the features of body fat, scientists collected men and women with and without cellulite, took samples of subcutaneous tissue from each of them from the «problem» and not affected by the visible layer of layers. Then a series of tests was carried out to find out if the samples of the material from the cellulite zones differ in the biochemical composition or condition of the tissues.

In the course of repeated tests, it turned out that there is no difference between cellulite and ordinary adipose tissue, and its presence is not associated with either health or life expectancy. Despite this, cosmetologists continue to call cellulite lipodystrophy, deftly replacing concepts.

The characteristic appearance of body fat, however, has its own reasons. In the subcutaneous layer are fat cells, adipocytes. The fibers that connect the skin to deep tissues form cells containing accumulations of fat. When fat cells increase in size, these «compartments» form bulges on the surface of the skin.

In women adipocytes are larger than in men and have the ability to accumulate more fat. In women, as a rule, by nature, more sensitive, thin and supple skin — under it, fat is especially noticeable. However, due to age-related degeneration of the skin or a sedentary lifestyle, cellulite can become even more visible.

In the body of an average woman without overweight, the percentage of fat is, in principle, higher than in the male body. This difference appears along with puberty and persists throughout life, as a result of biochemical sexual differences. The accumulation of fat in the body during adolescence ensures the normal course of a hypothetical pregnancy in the future.

The reason for this difference is in the female sex hormones estrogens: it is thanks to them that the distribution of fat in the body occurs «according to the female type» (it is more on the buttocks and hips), and its accumulation is several times more effective. Moreover, adipose tissue is largely responsible for the production of hormones, including the same estrogen, which is why those who lose too much fat from starvation or exercise may lose their periods.

Lumpy hips are not a sign of obesity, but a mature female. According to various sources, from 85 to 98 percent of women have visible accumulations of fat in the buttock-femoral region, and this does not depend on their height and weight, but is due to female hormones. This means that cellulite is not observed in approximately every fortieth woman.

About shame and prejudice

The market of cosmetic services still persistently offers us «treatment» and «getting rid» of cellulite, convincing us that if this is not a disease, then it is certainly an aesthetic problem. However, often procedures that are not considered anti-cellulite are considered. Liposuction, a popular method of surgical removal of fat, is not only not aimed at the «treatment» of cellulite, but can exacerbate the uneven distribution of fat under the skin.

Mesotherapy, considered a simple and quick alternative, is actually an aggressive and often dangerous procedure. The main active ingredient of lipolytic drugs, phosphatidylcholine, is banned in several European countries, because procedures based on it often cause serious complications.

Beauticians say that 10-15 sessions of wrapping will bring visible results, and many women naively wrapp in polyethylene at home. In fact, the maximum that can be lost from wraps is liquid.

The effect of massages, as well as ointments, scrubs and creams, is not directed to fat, but to the skin: these measures improve blood flow and tone, make the skin more elastic. This can make cellulite less noticeable, but does not affect the state of fat cells. A balanced diet, moderate physical activity, good sleep, smoking cessation and other good habits can also help — universal recommendations in any situation.

An advertising campaign of anti-cellulite products so purposefully attacks the consumer’s brain that cellulite has become stigma and has become considered a sign of laziness, licentiousness and a sedentary lifestyle. In fact, many active women, including professional athletes, have the necessary — and visible — fat layer. It’s a little sad that we have to look at each other’s hips in order to feel confident.

I hope that sports observers will someday get rid of the sexist custom of endlessly shooting ass of athletes at competitions and focus on the score. But, cynically, these photographs make it possible to understand that miniature Lucimara da Silva and powerful Serena Williams have cellulite — and this does not prevent them from being strong, agile and beautiful.

During sports, muscle mass is increased and fat is burned, but with a healthy approach, this happens while maintaining the hormonal, and hence the fat balance in the woman’s body. Physical activity makes cellulite less noticeable due to improved blood circulation in the skin, but even professional bodybuilders have problems with self-esteem due to such a natural thing as an uneven thigh surface.

Despite the fact that 80-98 percent of women have cellulite, we not only have learned to be ashamed of it — but we often consider it the norm to poison those who come under the arm with «unsuccessful photography». This is extremely beneficial for cosmetic and pharmaceutical companies that earn on our complexes. Every time we buy anti-cellulite products and services, we not only fill their pockets, but also invest in our own insecurity.

The importance of a healthy body attitude

The only way to change the look at cellulite is to contrast the advertising retouch with a real picture. So says Canadian blogger Kenzie Brenna, who coped with her dysmorphophobia and eating disorder, began to lead a healthy lifestyle and launched the #CelluliteSaturday campaign on the Web.

Within its framework, Kenzie urges every Saturday to upload photos that show cellulite. This hashtag should help girls create a realistic visual environment and unite in the fight against inappropriate shame.

Body-positive agenda is taking more and more celebrities. Kim Kardashian openly spoke about cellulite to the British Cosmopolitan:

«I have cellulite — and what’s wrong with that? It is foolish to assume that a person should be perfect simply because the attention of the press is directed to him.»

According to Kim, ice cream with cookies and cream is well worth the cellulite dimples. Rappers Iggy Azalea also believes that they should not be shy:

«It is important that people see that celebrities, including me, have cellulite and that we know about it. I have no problems with this, I’m still confident in myself, ” — she says in an interview with WHO magazine.

Behind a biased attitude to the natural properties of our body, whether it is fat, menstruation, sweat, or tears, shame and fear are usually hidden, and in the marketing strategies of many companies, unfortunately, it is still possible to speculate on these human feelings.

But almost every one of us has cellulite — and this is absolutely normal. It is important to develop a healthy attitude towards your body, learn to love it and appreciate the changes that happen to it.