Fundraising for Hanna

Hanna was born on time, but since birth we have been fighting for her life. So happened that she can’t live a full life because of multiple malformations. Perinatal CNS damage, neurosensory hearing loss, heart disease and spastic tetraparesis.

She can’t swallow on her own and get food through a probe that stands in her nose. We have to change the probe often, and it brings Hanna a lot of pain. We don’t hope to cover all medical expenses with someone else’s help, but at least part of them would help us significantly.

Let’s bring some magic to this world and save Hanna’s life together.
Anyway thank you for your support!

Flowy reflections

The ability to love is given to people very rarely. It is easy to confuse it with a dozen of similar emotions and sensations, with a mass of various mixes that were not close to love.

So think about whether you know how to love.

And will only love be enough for you when nothing else remains?

Information Hygiene: How To Deal With Bad News

In the DIGITAL ERA we got not only unlimited access to knowledge and means of communication, but also an almost uncontrolled flow of news – including emotionally difficult and terrible events.

How to support yourself when a huge stream of information about death, violence or social injustice falls upon you?

Allow yourself to express emotions

The terrible news is quite capable of causing a stressful reaction, even if we try to convince ourselves that these are just letters and pictures on the screen.

Crying, being agitated or depressed is normal, even if it is tears about strangers who died in a plane crash, or about a victim of domestic violence.

Empathy is a natural human quality. If you feel that emotions are overwhelming you, allow yourself to express them. It is also a good defense against overwhelming yourself with hard news.

When we realize how much the information we receive affects us, we begin to be more careful about digital hygiene.

Track strong bodily and emotional reactions

It is important to notice when reading or watching the news begins to harm you, causing too much stress.

Tense shoulders or legs, jaw clenched or other bodily manifestations of severe anxiety, sleep or appetite changes, depressed or, on the contrary, inflated mood are true signs of such stress.

If any of the above began to appear regularly after viewing the news feed, perhaps you should limit the flow of incoming information or even temporarily stop reading news and the feed on social networks.

Try to avoid hard news when you are especially vulnerable: early in the morning, right before bedtime, or when you are hungry, haven’t enough sleep, or are already worried or upset about something.

Make Sure You Have No Depression or Other Disorder

Sometimes, the fact that a person began to notice only the negative aspects of life, can serve as a sign of depression or other mental disorders.

Thoughts that only evil, violence and cruelty are happening in the world, that humanity or an individual part of it does not have a good future, that life is very difficult, can be an alarming signal.

It is worth considering whether you have other symptoms of depression: changes in appetite or sleep, negative perceptions of your life and prospects, apathetic or irritated mood, decreased physical activity, loss of interest in what you liked before.

If there are two or more symptoms and they last longer than two to three weeks in a row, you should consult a specialist.

Interrupt Auto Response

Our psyche perceives negative information as a threat, and as a self-defense there is a desire to control what is happening.

But how can you curb what has already happened to other people and at a great distance from you?

The brain decides to continue reading or watching the news, because it gives the illusion of control. In fact, this only enhances the stress response, which does not get a way out.

If you notice that the reaction has looped – you cannot stop reading, talking about difficult events, discussing them with friends and social networks – it may be worth the effort of will to stop and try to switch.

The simplest actions will help: close the laptop, go for a walk, cook your own lunch or pour tea.

Track cognitive bias

Negative information causes anxiety, forcing to concentrate on it.

And then the effect of cognitive distortion, known as the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, may work, it is an illusion of frequency: if we learned some information recently, then hearing it a second or third time, we will perceive it as unusually often repeated.

For example, you first thought about environmental issues or read about how domestic violence occurs. It’s very likely (because the news about both is quite frequent) that after this article and posts on the topic of global warming, fires or abuse in the family, you will catch your eye literally everywhere – in fact, because earlier you just flipped through them, and now they began to pay attention.

This can create a depressing impression, so it is important to separate your awakened consciousness (which is actually very good) from the gloomy thoughts that humanity is doomed.

Do not be ashamed of the need to switch

Disconnecting from the flow of heavy news is not indifference and not social irresponsibility, but self-preservation.

Here it is worth recalling the oxygen mask, which is first worn on yourself, or thinking that if you are exhausted, you certainly can not help anyone, but only increase the number of distressed people by one more.

Do not let others impose a feeling of guilt on you that your emotional container is not unlimited: only you can decide how many difficult stories you can endure now.

And yes – if you are sick, depressed or experiencing a difficult period of life, it is likely that this volume is zero. This is also normal, and you have the right to recover and follow the information diet as much as you need.

Highlight Triggers

Social injustice, violence, the death of living beings can emotionally affect any person. But often, what is connected with our personal negative experience: physical or sexual violence, traumatic childhood experience, bullying, death of loved ones, is especially hard on us.

Knowing “your” topics, you should be especially careful when reading or even watching a video with just such information.

If after hard news you can’t calm down in any way, it’s likely that, besides the usual human sympathy, your reaction is caused by the recollections of your own injuries.

Ask yourself, do the sensations you experienced while reading or watching this news resemble something that has already happened in your life? Do they remind you of something? What catches the most, hurts?

Sometimes such episodes become the path to awareness of one’s own traumatic experience, which was previously supplanted.

But be careful: if you unblock such memories, you will need a lot of self-care and, possibly, psychological help.

At the very least, in such a situation, the support of understanding relatives is needed, with whom difficult experiences can be shared.

Say thank you with hot coffee 🍰☕😊

11 New Year things to inspire yourself and others

There is very little left until the end of December — if in 2019 you were going to play sports, start saving money and learn a new language, you can already indulge in self-flagellation and put off all these bold plans for 2020.

Before the New Year, many people feel anguish: this is due to high demands on themselves, and the pressure of society (on Instagram, everyone is already taking pictures of themselves at the Christmas tree, and you don’t even know where to celebrate), and the inevitable expenses, and the feeling of obligation, and uncertainty about the future.

Nevertheless, it is possible and even necessary to raise your festive spirit and enter the new year as a more pleasant person for yourself.

Here are a few quick and low-cost ways to feel better in the holiday madness.

Give someone something unnecessary

The best way to end the year symbolically is to arrange cleaning and get rid of everything that no longer brings joy. In the process, there are many things that you no longer need, and it is a pity to throw away.

Don’t throw it away: take your old clothes for recycling or donate them to charity, put off the smartest clothes until the next swap party or offer your friends right away.

The most amazing items that you consider junk, will have success at various sites. Collect the old batteries for recycling, take the read books to bookcrossing.

Done — the place has become empty, breathing has become easier, you acted as a conscious and environmentally responsible person. In the new year he will live easier with such a person.

Present a gift with meaning

Stop the cycle of soap, souvenir figurines and candles with vigorous fragrance and give something really cool, even if it’s small. Even for «secret Santa» at work, you can choose something nice and meaningful.

If you are not burdened with the need to give gifts to friends, think of strangers.

Is there no suitable charity gathering nearby?

Improvise: the saleswoman from the grocery, where you go every day, will certainly be very happy if you buy her a chocolate bar and congratulate her with holidays.

Have a bath in love

The best way to quickly cheer yourself up is to call your beloved grandmother, who is crazy about you, and talk to her for at least half an hour. A relative of any age or an old friend who loves you unconditionally and considers you the most wonderful fish in the world will do, no matter how you try to prove the opposite.

Now everyone is busy preparing for the holidays and burning at work, but there’s definitely enough time to talk on the phone. An alternative is to visit friends who have a friendly dog ​​and cuddle it properly.

If you are prone to self-flagellation and feel especially lousy before the holidays, ask your friends to write what qualities they like — if you don’t want to «ask for compliments, ” you can always say that this is a task from a psychotherapist, boss or boxing trainer.

Write to someone you haven’t contacted for a long time

You wonder how are doing with your school friend who moved to another city and seems to be married? If interested, write to her and ask how you are doing.

Think about which of the people you’ve liked that you haven’t talked with for a long time and contact someone. The addressee is flattering, it does not oblige you to anything, weak social ties are strengthened, you are magnificent.

Fix something your hands never reached

Few things bring such satisfaction as a finished job. It is unlikely that it will be possible to deal with the launched working projects until the New Year, but you will definitely have time to do something small with the housework: the result will be noticeable immediately, and you will feel fine.

Finally, change the light bulb in the toilet, wash the bath mat, buy new slippers, put on trousers or glue the baseboard that you cling to for months — cheers, your house has become more comfortable, and if not a mountain, then a small pebble has fallen off your shoulders.

If after one small business there is a mood to continue — do not stop, but try not to get too killed.

Make a list of your achievements

Even if someone else’s «results of the year» is enraging you on Facebook, it can be useful to summarize yourselves — it is not necessary to publish the result, do the results for yourself.

Try to make a list of twenty things that you have been successful this year — it can be «earned the first million», and «did not forget about Mom’s birthday.»

Twenty points gained easily? Add twenty more. An alternative for those who are sick of «excellence» is the classic practice of gratitude: remember all the pleasant moments for which you are grateful for the outgoing year, and make a list of one hundred points.

There are so many points for good reason: to fill everything, you have to remember both big events and small joys, like that unexpectedly delicious cake or October evening, when you walked and happily rustled with leaves.

Plan something cool for the holidays

After a hectic December and the New Year, it’s easy to be on the couch without plans for the coming week — in order not to run wild at home, set a day for a solo or collective appearance.

See what exhibitions will be open, arrange with friends to go to the rink, invite everyone to visit you in advance and make a menu, plan a short trip out of town or buy tickets to the theater.

Living in anticipation of some interesting event is always easier — the main thing is not to clog up the weekend with chores and leave yourself time to just lie down, this is also important.

Sign up to the doctor

Everyone has debts to their health: an analysis that you can’t pass for six months, a new mole that would be nice to show to a dermatologist, a long-pasted visit to a dentist or gynecologist.

Sign up with the right specialist right now — at least for January. At the same time, throw away the old recipes and audit the first-aid kit to be fully equipped for the holidays.

Sorry if you offended anyone

Why start a year with remorse when you can be courageous and apologize? No reason. If you suspect that a person is offended by you, but do not understand why, then ask.

«It seems to me that you have become cooler about me, maybe I did something wrong?» — you shouldn’t, of course, be manipulated by toxic friends, but sincerely asking yourself once is not at all scary.

If your conscience is absolutely clear, remember those who helped and delighted you this year — and thank them for their support.

Return small debts

No one has extra money at the end of the year, but you are most likely able to repay small debts to friends and colleagues — remember who you owe a couple of hundred for a taxi or coffee, and give it right away, not paying attention to the statute of limitations.

If a person has forgotten that you owe him something, it will be a pleasant surprise for him, and you can put yourself the mental five for honesty.

Remove all unnecessary from the phone and from the computer

Even if you don’t have the strength to clean the house, you can clean up the digital halls. Sort out unread messages and letters, delete unnecessary items from your contact list, take down applications that you haven’t used for a long time, and spend a pleasant evening sorting old photos.

At the same time, remember the good points, and also make a backup of everything important. At the end of December, mailings about discounts and sales begin to come to the mail with tripled strength — a great time to unsubscribe from spam and start the year with clean mail and a fresh head.

Say thank you with hot coffee 🍰☕😊

Ordinary body: Why fight with cellulite is pointless

BEFORE THE MODERN SOCIETY IS A LOT OF SERIOUS ISSUES, such as the struggle to increase life expectancy, the establishment of world democracy or the colonization of Titan. Surprisingly, this very society is still experiencing irrational horror at the dimples in the hips.

Cellulite is considered a disease, perceived as ugliness, used as an insult, serves as a cause for concern and despondency of millions of women. It is time to understand the nature of this phenomenon and understand how another natural part of physiology has turned into an occasion for collective neurosis.

Who invented cellulite

Young girls are afraid of him, women shamefully delete photos he has damaged, and retouchers all over the world sit in photoshop day and night, aligning the uneven skin on the hips of world-famous models. The Internet is overwhelmed with advice, and the market with cellulite destruction services.

There are endless amounts of anti-cellulite products. Creams and serums, scrubs and wraps, brushes and massagers, herbs and algae, electrostimulation devices, injections and surgeries — all this only exists to help us cope with what is groundlessly considered a sign of laziness, ill health and unattractiveness.

Surprisingly, but cellulite as a global problem has not been fifty years old. Thanks to artists such as Rembrandt, Rubens and Courbet, overflows of light on uneven female buttocks, hips and stomachs adorn the best museums in the world.

Hollywood divas also did not think that cellulite should be treated. Even the promotional photos of the legendary actresses Marilyn Monroe and Jane Mansfield or the erotic model Betty Page never occurred to anyone to retouch.

In the 1920s, the French came up with the name for the type of female skin on the hips, buttocks and shoulders — «orange peel». But even then no one spoke about the fact that bumps on the female body are bad, that this is not the norm, but an unpleasant exception.

However, for half a century, the idea of ​​cellulite crossed the Atlantic: in 1973, the enterprising owner of the New York beauty salon Nicole Ronsard published the book «Cellulite: these lumps, bumps and bumps that you could not get rid of before.» The work was immediately reviewed by Vogue magazine, acquired by two hundred thousand women, and then it was repeatedly reprinted as a bestseller.

The book stated that cellulite is the «wrong» fat, and the tuberous buttock is a sign of impaired blood and lymph flow and the cause of the accumulation of toxic substances that the body cannot cope with. At that time, Ronsar had to work hard to find a cellulite-free model for advertising the book: only the thirtieth girl who came to the casting did not have it.

But in the end, the author hit the jackpot, starting to sell «anti-cellulite» cosmetic services: from ointments to massages. Immediately took off sales of cactus washcloths, hard loofah, magic creams, vitamin supplements.

After a while, in order to reach an even wider circle of consumers, four stages of the development of cellulite were invented.

The last of them was similar in description to fibrosis, and the first was called ingeniously — «hidden cellulite» — and as if hinted at the fact that if you do not have cellulite, you should still be afraid, because it just hides. To detect it, it is recommended to squeeze suspicious zones, find fat cells under the skin — and immediately run to the procedure.

In subsequent years, the cosmetic market adopted the idea of ​​cellulite, having justifiably seen a gold mine in the female fat layer. Courses of «treatment» poured out hundreds of dollars for clients.

The American Medical Association in 1978 announced that such a diagnosis as cellulite does not exist, and, of course, it has never been in the International Classification of Diseases. However, frightened consumers began to believe that the cream can penetrate the skin and dissolve fat cells, that polyethylene wraps will help to «evaporate» them, and that there are anti-cellulite exercises for «problem areas».

There was even an idea that cellulite is not fat, but a gel-like substance of water, fat and toxins that can be consumed by diet. Not so long ago, a horror story was born that cellulite is a sign of endocrine diseases, problems with the thyroid or pancreas.

Of course, from the point of view of physiology, all these are absurd assumptions. In just a couple of decades, the idea that they «suffer» from cellulite was also driven into our heads, but they also forced us to buy various placebo and give more and more money to cosmetic companies.

It is time to leave this realm of ignorance and understand two things: the first — that cellulite is far from always possible and necessary to get rid of, the second — that this is not a problem.

Is there a difference between cellulite and “regular” fat

Cellulite is not a medical term. From the point of view of medicine, this is just the body fat, that is, the norm: for doctors and biologists it simply does not exist. To understand the features of body fat, scientists collected men and women with and without cellulite, took samples of subcutaneous tissue from each of them from the «problem» and not affected by the visible layer of layers. Then a series of tests was carried out to find out if the samples of the material from the cellulite zones differ in the biochemical composition or condition of the tissues.

In the course of repeated tests, it turned out that there is no difference between cellulite and ordinary adipose tissue, and its presence is not associated with either health or life expectancy. Despite this, cosmetologists continue to call cellulite lipodystrophy, deftly replacing concepts.

The characteristic appearance of body fat, however, has its own reasons. In the subcutaneous layer are fat cells, adipocytes. The fibers that connect the skin to deep tissues form cells containing accumulations of fat. When fat cells increase in size, these «compartments» form bulges on the surface of the skin.

In women adipocytes are larger than in men and have the ability to accumulate more fat. In women, as a rule, by nature, more sensitive, thin and supple skin — under it, fat is especially noticeable. However, due to age-related degeneration of the skin or a sedentary lifestyle, cellulite can become even more visible.

In the body of an average woman without overweight, the percentage of fat is, in principle, higher than in the male body. This difference appears along with puberty and persists throughout life, as a result of biochemical sexual differences. The accumulation of fat in the body during adolescence ensures the normal course of a hypothetical pregnancy in the future.

The reason for this difference is in the female sex hormones estrogens: it is thanks to them that the distribution of fat in the body occurs «according to the female type» (it is more on the buttocks and hips), and its accumulation is several times more effective. Moreover, adipose tissue is largely responsible for the production of hormones, including the same estrogen, which is why those who lose too much fat from starvation or exercise may lose their periods.

Lumpy hips are not a sign of obesity, but a mature female. According to various sources, from 85 to 98 percent of women have visible accumulations of fat in the buttock-femoral region, and this does not depend on their height and weight, but is due to female hormones. This means that cellulite is not observed in approximately every fortieth woman.

About shame and prejudice

The market of cosmetic services still persistently offers us «treatment» and «getting rid» of cellulite, convincing us that if this is not a disease, then it is certainly an aesthetic problem. However, often procedures that are not considered anti-cellulite are considered. Liposuction, a popular method of surgical removal of fat, is not only not aimed at the «treatment» of cellulite, but can exacerbate the uneven distribution of fat under the skin.

Mesotherapy, considered a simple and quick alternative, is actually an aggressive and often dangerous procedure. The main active ingredient of lipolytic drugs, phosphatidylcholine, is banned in several European countries, because procedures based on it often cause serious complications.

Beauticians say that 10-15 sessions of wrapping will bring visible results, and many women naively wrapp in polyethylene at home. In fact, the maximum that can be lost from wraps is liquid.

The effect of massages, as well as ointments, scrubs and creams, is not directed to fat, but to the skin: these measures improve blood flow and tone, make the skin more elastic. This can make cellulite less noticeable, but does not affect the state of fat cells. A balanced diet, moderate physical activity, good sleep, smoking cessation and other good habits can also help — universal recommendations in any situation.

An advertising campaign of anti-cellulite products so purposefully attacks the consumer’s brain that cellulite has become stigma and has become considered a sign of laziness, licentiousness and a sedentary lifestyle. In fact, many active women, including professional athletes, have the necessary — and visible — fat layer. It’s a little sad that we have to look at each other’s hips in order to feel confident.

I hope that sports observers will someday get rid of the sexist custom of endlessly shooting ass of athletes at competitions and focus on the score. But, cynically, these photographs make it possible to understand that miniature Lucimara da Silva and powerful Serena Williams have cellulite — and this does not prevent them from being strong, agile and beautiful.

During sports, muscle mass is increased and fat is burned, but with a healthy approach, this happens while maintaining the hormonal, and hence the fat balance in the woman’s body. Physical activity makes cellulite less noticeable due to improved blood circulation in the skin, but even professional bodybuilders have problems with self-esteem due to such a natural thing as an uneven thigh surface.

Despite the fact that 80-98 percent of women have cellulite, we not only have learned to be ashamed of it — but we often consider it the norm to poison those who come under the arm with «unsuccessful photography». This is extremely beneficial for cosmetic and pharmaceutical companies that earn on our complexes. Every time we buy anti-cellulite products and services, we not only fill their pockets, but also invest in our own insecurity.

The importance of a healthy body attitude

The only way to change the look at cellulite is to contrast the advertising retouch with a real picture. So says Canadian blogger Kenzie Brenna, who coped with her dysmorphophobia and eating disorder, began to lead a healthy lifestyle and launched the #CelluliteSaturday campaign on the Web.

Within its framework, Kenzie urges every Saturday to upload photos that show cellulite. This hashtag should help girls create a realistic visual environment and unite in the fight against inappropriate shame.

Body-positive agenda is taking more and more celebrities. Kim Kardashian openly spoke about cellulite to the British Cosmopolitan:

«I have cellulite — and what’s wrong with that? It is foolish to assume that a person should be perfect simply because the attention of the press is directed to him.»

According to Kim, ice cream with cookies and cream is well worth the cellulite dimples. Rappers Iggy Azalea also believes that they should not be shy:

«It is important that people see that celebrities, including me, have cellulite and that we know about it. I have no problems with this, I’m still confident in myself, ” — she says in an interview with WHO magazine.

Behind a biased attitude to the natural properties of our body, whether it is fat, menstruation, sweat, or tears, shame and fear are usually hidden, and in the marketing strategies of many companies, unfortunately, it is still possible to speculate on these human feelings.

But almost every one of us has cellulite — and this is absolutely normal. It is important to develop a healthy attitude towards your body, learn to love it and appreciate the changes that happen to it.

Say thank you with hot coffee 🍰☕😊

Ways to help your psyche in winter

December is a difficult time.On the one hand, almost everyone admits that they are tired, there is no strength, around is chaos and urgent New Year’s affairs, which are impossible, but necessary. Some are lucky in December, they feel full of energy and at the peak of efficiency — however, such advanced workers are still in the minority.

In December, more than ever, people ask themselves “Where can I get strength?” And “How to make myself rejoice?” However, it is impossible to force oneself, and tortured joy only depletes the psyche.

December is a month of deprivation: we are deprived of the sunlight and fresh air that we are physically needed. The body is yearning, wrinkling, and after it the nervous system. Often we react to December in the same way as to a disease or wound: anxiety, irritation and fatigue, sometimes pain.

Now we figure out what will help you not to lose your remaining strength in winter.

Do not believe your own fear

Believe fatigue, it does not deceive you. But carefully double-check what worries you in a specific period. When we are squeezed like a lemon, it seems that the world around is in disaster: things fall apart, relationships fall apart, children behave badly, someone gets sick with serious illnesses on social networks, tragedies happen — in general, a catastrophe disaster.

In fact, the psyche selectively pulls from the outside world what confirms our internal state — and especially stories that relate to death and loss.

We experience this season of the year precisely as a frightening loss: nature dies and freezes, summer has left us, it’s insultingly short, and the body is scared if it will survive a long winter. In previous centuries, you know, one could not hold out until spring.

Do not force yourself to do more

No need to run forward, urging yourself and screaming from tension — this is the fastest way to nervous exhaustion. When we imitate enthusiasm, we borrow these forces from February, March and April. Instead, now it’s better to reduce the speed by a month and a half — that’s why nature planned them.

Let’s use December to say goodbye to all unfulfilled. By the end of the year, everyone accumulates a lot of what was planned (because we are optimistic), but was not done (because reality has its own laws).

It’s time to bitterly admit that so far nothing has come of it, that in something we have overestimated our strengths. It’s time to free up space in the head from these unfulfilled plans, close these windows so that the psyche does not hang on them.

Do not force yourself to do more than you can

Usually someone justly object to me that it’s impossible to turn off work for a month, a carousel of household chores and meetings. Okay, we don’t turn off — but we listen to ourselves and try to determine the hours when we are active and our head is thinking. They are always there, even in the darkest autumn-winter time. Moreover, it is usually the same watch every day.

Most often, the psyche has two bursts of activity: a couple of hours in the morning and another one and a half to two hours around 16:00 — 18:00. It’s worth trying to plan all the important things for these time periods, serious pieces of work and meetings where you need to be at your best — and the rest of the time, live at the minimum speed.

If you suddenly managed to do something at other hours, we praise ourselves with all our might. And the time after 18:00 just write off to the scrap, we give it to December for tear.

Feel free to stupid whole nights and perform only routine procedures that do not require the inclusion of a head. Remember, this is only for a couple of months — by February, the psyche will reward us for being able to hold the pause.

Be careful with social networks

They, like any networks, drag a lot of mud: strange troubling stories, complaints, indignation, strong emotions, which in December may not be affordable. Few have an iron will and are able to not go to social networks for a month.

But you can try to avoid them at least in the morning (remember, in winter this is one of the few effective hours) and in the evening (when the psyche is already so vulnerable that any nonsense can cause an explosion of anxiety and despair).

Do not compare yourself with others

Social networks, and especially Instagram, is an endless machine gun belt of other people’s victories: someone won a grant, baked a cake, someone’s children shine in sports and on stage. Someone post photos from the gym, someone has pictures of the sea.

«And we have nothing, but we have nothing!» — adds our inner voice bitterly over and over again. They didn’t win, they didn’t reach the gym, they didn’t even bake cookies.

Any comparisons now only devour the last drops of strength and paralyze. Remember, for fulfillment you need strength — and for them to appear, you need respite. We need pauses, especially in winter.

Look for a nice tactile feel

Connect all sorts of tactilely nice things. Everything that is pleasant to touch: doggie, cat, soft plaid, plush surface of the chair, pillow. Children, after all, are also fit.

Hug those you want to hug. Look for what you like to stroke and touch: rough, smooth, velvety. You can buy fluffy socks or gloves and sleep in them.

Sometimes you should wrap yourself in a blanket and lie down, sticking out only your nose and looking at the ceiling. Touching soft, smelling tasty — such things surprisingly calm the psyche.

Remember the good

Try to draw strength in good memories. Each of us can remember the truly bright periods of life: when we did something, we were full of energy, inspired. For some, this is childhood, but not necessary.

Try to remember what surrounded you at that time: what songs did you like then, what films did you watch, what clothes did you wear, from which cup did you drink tea (or coffee, or what did you drink there then). What books were read, what poster then hung on the wall above the bed, which then seemed tasty to you.

Now try to turn on music from that period or find similar clothes and go around at home. Pull out the same cup or buy a similar one. Re-read one of those books. And you will be surprised at the surge of strength — in our memoirs a huge resource has been sewn from good periods.


Your body is surely tormented by sedentary work and cold, and it will be grateful. It’s not about signing up for the gym, especially if you haven’t been there all year. You will not believe it, but even five minutes of the simplest charge in the morning and five in the evening work.

At the same time, the warm-up should not pursue the goal of properly loading yourself — only not in December. Her only task is to make us want to do it again tomorrow. If you get tired today, you won’t want to tomorrow, and the psyche will find a hundred reasons to get out.

So it’s better to take the simplest and most enjoyable set of exercises, no more tiring than brushing your teeth or washing your face — but every day.

Check your neck, shoulders and back of your neck for even more stress. Tense — relax, it’s like a signal to the whole body: «Everything is OK, we are safe.» It is better to give such signals several times a day.

Drop the excess

Our task in December as a good sculptor is: not to stick on top of the excess, but to remove everything unnecessary. For example, do not enter the race for New Year’s gifts and matinees.

Surprisingly, it is a fact: even if we do not prepare a single gift, the New Year will happen anyway, friends and relatives will not turn away from us with curses and the Christmas tree will light up.

You can afford the luxury of transferring one, another, third – everything that is not related to health, as practice shows, is calmly waiting for January. And December is the time when only pleasant things and nice people are allowed to be received. And even then in moderate doses.

Say thank you with hot coffee 🍰☕😊